Why renting an apartment made sense for visiting the grands during the pandemic.

“The most fun thing I have done during the quarantine has been walking in the front door of your apartment,” said Charlotte, grinning ear to ear as she accessed the code to open the front door to our rented apartment.

That statement made me sad — and incredibly happy we could give her the gift of new surroundings, at least some of the time!

For years, every time we have visited our son and his family at their home in Washington state, we have stayed in a spare bedroom located in their basement. That has worked out fine.


  • Maximum time with the kids.
  • No cost.
  • No need to rent a car.


  • Hard to find enough time to rest … and when we do rest, we feel guilty.
  • We have a tendency to overdue helping with meals, laundry, etc. and living under their roof encourages this.

Why this visit is different.

Our son is now working from home and, by rearranging some furniture, the spare bedroom has become mostly a home office. Of course we could still use it as a bedroom during the evening and night, but that sounded cramped and would pose some logistics problems.

I had a brainstorm. For this visit, let’s rent a place on VRBO (Vacation Rentals by Owners) or Airbnb. We started looking for an apartment, close to their house so going back and forth would not be a big deal. Our son and his wife said we could use one of their cars. Since they are quarantining anyway, we trusted that us using a car would not be a big imposition.

The result? A great idea!

After staying a few weeks, we can positively say this has turned out to be a terrific decision.

Time to rest — without guilt. We used to take rest breaks in our basement guest room but felt guilty hearing the activity of the house and not being part of it. Driving away is hard, but it’s like taking off a band-aid. We do it … go back to our apartment and put up our feet. One glass of wine, please! And oh, the quiet cup of morning coffee. When we arrive at their home, we are energized!

We have a place the grandkids can safely visit during quarantining. Our grandchildren have not been to another place since February! Not a store, restaurant, playground, church, museum or even a friend’s house. No wonder they are so excited to be in another living room, another home! They absolutely love coming to our apartment.

We get precious one-on-one time. While we have had all the grandkids at our apartment at the same time, overnight stays are for the children one at a time. We pamper the visitor, fuss over everything, cook their favorite items, focus on he or she alone — all those advantages of being an only child. “I just love it here!” Fiona will say every fifteen minutes. With their growing family, we have never been able to create one-on-one time except in very small chunks, so these overnight stays area joy! We tried to get an apartment with two bedrooms and happened to — but knowing what I know now, the extra bedroom would have been a top priority.

Anderson and Grandpa get some quality, quiet time
on the balcony of our apartment.

Our son and his wife have a getaway place. During every visit, we happily watch the grandkids many times so our son and daughter-in-love can have time away. They often go out to eat, or to a coffee shop — they laugh and say that even going to IKEA is fun for the two of them. (When she’s not breastfeeding, they have a night away.) We love being able to give them “couple time.” Our temporary apartment has allowed us to do just that but in a different way. While we are at their house with the grands, the happy couple have been able to spend an afternoon or evening at our apartment. This is the first time they have been alone together away from the house since the pandemic started!

We feel more like “regular” grandparents! We do things like baking brownies in the evening at our apartment to surprise the kids the next day … having our daughter-in-law drop the kids at our apartment, at our request, so she can have tea with a girlfriend.

I remember helping my grandmother clean, way back when.
Fiona said “Sure!” when we asked her if she wanted to sweep. She loved our style of
sweeper so much she said, “When I have my own house, I’m going to get one of these vacuums.”

The only disadvantage of having our own place? The cost. Ouch. Nothing about the Pacific Northwest is cheap.

Have you ever rented a place instead of staying with your kids? How did it work out? Please share in the Comments section below.

To read more about our cross country road trip, click here and here and here.

8 thoughts on “Why renting an apartment made sense for visiting the grands during the pandemic.”

  1. Now you’ve got me wondering. Maybe a separate place is a better idea especially for longer visits. We’ve always stayed with our daughter but now with three grandkids and us getting older, we get so worn out so fast.

  2. My husband and I tried this same idea out on our September visit to celebrate our granddaughter’s fifth birthday. We are 600 miles from their Florida home, and found a simple Airbnb apartment about two miles from our son’s house. It was such a great way to give everybody some time apart. When our grandson, age 2, would go down for a nap, we slipped out and rested at our own place. Their guest room has also become a home office. The grands enjoyed visiting at our apartment as well. Next time, I plan to look for a spot that’s more kid friendly, but we definitely enjoyed some quiet coffee mornings, middle of the day rest breaks.

    • Donna, you and I are cut from the same cloth! I’m glad it worked out for you as it’s working out for us.

      Our place happens to be kid friendly, but we weren’t searching for that. Just dumb luck that we got it.

      Thanks for sharing. Isn’t it nice to find a kindred spirit!


  3. I totally recommend from our experience. We are indeed faraways living in Melbourne Australia ourselves and visiting Copenhagen in Denmark.On our 2 visits there(2 girls 6 and 8) and their 2 visits to Australia we have used other accommodation- Danish apartments are tiny, daughter in law needs her space, we need rest time!
    We have organised as follows- swapped our place with Dane wanting to visit Australia, seeking out a neighbour going on holidays and leaving an empty apartment through a letter drop, and using airbnb, son finding accomm for us through a work colleague. Very happy memories may not be repeated for ages sadly!

    • Nice to hear from you, Kerry.

      My goodness, your trips are far from simple to arrange! But worth it when you wrap your arms around your granddaughters.

      My husband and I were wondering just the other day about swapping homes. How did you find someone? Was it a service or website you used? I’d love to know.


  4. Thanks Jane. My daughter, SIL and 2 young kids are moving into our house for a 3 months while they wait for their new build to be ready. My SIL is now working from home so that takes up another room. I am thinking of renting an apartment close by for my husband and I for a month or two so we can all have some space; while it may be expensive I suspect it will be worth every penny. And I know if I stay in the house I’ll feel guilty if I’m not helping every moment! And we are not getting any younger and need our down time. Your comments have confirmed for me that having a separate place close by is the way to go!


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