Some of us in this “Miles Away Grandparenting” gang usually get to spend Christmas with our grandkids — but not this year.
Many of us rarely or never get to see their precious faces on Christmas.
But all of us with empty laps on Christmas know that the “longing-for-them” meter gets a little out-of-control on December 24 and 25.
I wish I had great wisdom for getting through this time. I don’t. But if you and I were talking over a cup of coffee, I would share a few things that work for me.
- I try to keep in mind that video chatting is a miracle our grandparents and other ancestors never had. I do delight in using this marvelous technology on Christmas especially!
- I resolve to be upbeat when talking or video chatting with the grands. No boo-hoo-poor-me!
- Christmas is not just a day — it’s an entire season. I try to have holiday fun with my grands on video chats, such as having them help us trim the tree.
- Practicing “love the one you’re with” is especially important at holiday time. Focusing on your spouse, other relatives, and friends and trying to increase their holiday joy does help.
- Often I remind myself that it’s just Christmas. I get to see my grandkids other times, probably when they are a little less “wound up” and distracted.
- Plan ahead! I usually try to think about the next visit. Maybe now is the time to resolve that you will be with them next Christmas?
And, of course, I have abundant joy and gratitude for my grandchildren. I am so blessed. Someone once asked me if I was jealous of a friend who had grandchildren living on her same street. I said in all sincerity, “No, I’d rather have my four even if they live across the country than having her two down the street from me!”
Hope I made you smile. Merry Christmas!